Grief is something that everyone experiences in their lives – when we lose someone or something important to us. No two people experience grief the same way, but we all go through it. It is a universal human experience.
The way that grief affects us depends on a variety of things, from what sort of loss we have suffered, to our personal beliefs, our age, and how healthy we are. These variables might make grief hard to predict, but they also make it so that we can make changes to better cope, by taking steps to mitigate our grief.
Grief doesn’t have to consume you – at the Modern Mystery School, we can teach you how to cope with your grief in a healthy way.
How Is Grief Affecting You?
Grieving is an often complicated process, with multiple stages. The so-called “Five Stages of Grief” may not be completely accurate, but they are a great guideline for beginning to understand the process – though we may not pass through all five stages, may not experience them in order, and may become stuck within one stage for some time, or experience it multiple times.
Usually, the first thing we experience isn’t sadness – not straight away, anyway. Grief normally begins as shock, helplessness and anxiety, with the extreme emotions often giving way to anger or denial as the mind and spirit try to shield themselves from the loss.
Feelings like these are perfectly natural, and you should allow yourself to feel them. Everyone suffers through them, and they are normal, so don’t feel worried or ashamed for feeling that way. Even anger directed at the person or thing that you have lost is normal: our spirits and minds are attempting to process the loss as best they can. You may judge yourself harshly for the way you feel while in grief, but at the Modern Mystery School we think that you should never disregard or invalidate your feelings, since they are a crucial part of grieving healthily and coming to terms with your loss.
It may not feel like it, but these feelings will pass with time. You may not even want them to – but trust that it will get better.
Ways to Cope With Grief
Grief has no quick solution. It is normal to be affected by grief every day for some time – ordinarily between a year and a year-and-a-half, but everyone is different. After that, however, you will still feel the loss, but it may not be so all-encompassing any more.
At the Modern Mystery School, we believe that everyone grieves in their own way, and that it is perfectly natural and healthy to grieve. We encourage everyone to follow these simple tips, passed down for generations, to help cope with loss.
Talk to Someone
It might seem obvious, but it really is true – talking to someone has been proven to help ease the pain of negative emotions. Talk to someone you trust, like a family member or friend, a member of the religious community, or a counsellor or therapist.
Let Yourself Feel Your Emotions
We often try to deny the feelings that we are experiencing when we grieve. We feel like we shouldn’t feel a certain way, or that to face our feelings head-on would be too painful.
Don’t be afraid to really feel your emotions while grieving – it’s a healthy part of the grieving process and will help to ensure that there is no lasting damage.
In the same way, you should avoid things that will numb the pain, like alcohol, drugs or other self-destructive behaviour. It may seem like a good idea at the time, but you’d simply be postponing the pain, and the damage done will be worse.
Rest and Get Enough Sleep
Sleep helps keep our bodies and minds healthy. You know how exhausting grieving can be; so be kind to yourself and make sure you get enough rest. If you’re having trouble sleeping, try a meditative exercise like The Modern Mystery School’s Mindfulness Meditation for Sleep, or speak to a doctor if you are concerned.
Eat As Well as You Can
Eating well improves our mood and gives us more energy even when circumstances are perfectly normal – and when we’re grieving, the effect can be quite pronounced. Eat a healthy diet with lots of greens and low sugar, and you’ll feel better.
Try to Keep Your Routine Together
There is great comfort to be found in the normal routines of life. Keeping up normality as much as possible can have untold benefits when you’re going through a hard time. Take care of yourself and your home as much as you normally would, but don’t stifle your grief. If your routine is disrupted by grief, don’t beat yourself up over it; just try again tomorrow.
Can the Modern Mystery School EU Help Me With Grief?
The Modern Mystery School has been providing spiritual nurturing to people for thousands of years and across all continents. The tools and teachings we provide won’t take the grief away, but they will empower you to recover and live your life, and they will help you to deal with your emotions in a healthy way.
Our teachers have dedicated their lives to helping others, and helping people through grief is just one of the ways in which they do this. Through a range of spiritual and mental teachings, you can develop yourself and help cope with your grief and recover from it in a way that honours what you have lost while preparing you for the future.
Contact the Modern Mystery School Today!
If you or someone you love is suffering from grief, you can get in contact with the Modern Mystery School at any time by calling our head office on 02071837880 or visiting our Contact Us page. We’re always happy to talk to people who are suffering with grief, and can provide advice, support, and a sympathetic ear. Just give us a call!